A common trait among the most successful, accomplished people is that they are Double Loop Learners, which is a fancy way of saying that they are self-aware and are constantly seeking out self-assessment.
Double Loop Learning is rare. Single Loop Learning is very common.
Single Loop Learners look at external factors for the reasons behind their successes or failures.
As an affiliate owner, you might think you’re not as successful as you’d like because of the competition down the street or because your coaches aren't motivated enough. As an athlete, you might think you aren't progressing because you’re not following the right program or because you can't afford the best equipment.
Double Loop Learners take a deep look at their strengths and weakness. They realize that those are the factors contributing to their success or failure. They recognize that if something isn’t going right, if progress isn’t happening fast enough (or at all), it’s because of something they are doing or not doing. They appreciate that it has nothing to do with external factors.
And we get it. That's hard to do.
It's much easier to brush it off as the universe not rewarding us. It's much harder to admit that maybe we're not a great leader. It's much harder to admit we're not great at delegating authority, or taking direction, or exercising patience in our lifts.
The New York Times had a short article a few years ago called "The Secret Ingredient to Success." The authors closed with this:
Be proactive. Focus on those things within your circle of influence, and let everything else fade into the background.
Take a close look at yourself.
Then get to work.